...until you tell them.
The only way, for friends to understand your true heartfelt intentions, is to make them known.
Do not feel, nor relish in the thought, that it is too wasteful and consuming to explain.
This way, you won't be misunderstood (:
And in doing so, you can gain a new light, a new understanding.
Don't bottle it all up and assume that there is no one who can understand your intentions. As long as it is good, as long as you are not intentionally trying to hurt the people around you out of anger, or jealousy, or spite - it is good.
If someone, if a friend, is trying to explain themselves to you, you should also try your best to sit through it. And if you don't want to because you do not think the issue to be of emotional significance to you, you could refuse it in a manner that would not result in misunderstandings. You cannot expect people to understand your character or personality, nor expect them to understand that your refute meant no intentional harm.
Look at these two sentences, and ask yourself, which is better? Which one should be able to help resolve things in a simple, yet happy manner, assuming the other party doesn't understand you well but yet is a good friend of yours?
" Its okay de, don't need to explain ^^ "
" dun need explain "
If you feel guilt right now, good for you - because you will change one day - everyone changes be it for the good, or the bad. If you know you are insensitive, then good for you - because you will change one day. Don't expect your friends to not hold grudges or misunderstandings against you - because the world does not revolve around you, and not everyone is as forgiving(or forgetful) as you are.
It is alright to be selfish, if you know your limits and that your selfishness is not malicious.
But then again, the world is not so kind..But at least, you should strive to maintain a healthy relationship with those you cherish for you will lose them if you don't. This is a message to all my friends, and of course to myself.
30 December 2009
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